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Post-processing for the In-love

by Edj - Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Reasons why having a morning person boyfriend is dreadful but at the same time amazing

by Edj - Friday, March 27, 2015

“I will never be a morning person, for the moon and I are too much in love.”

Have you ever read this quote before? If I would have to describe myself in to a quote, this would suit me best. I am a certified night owl. I love sleeping and be lazy in the morning (I mean, who doesn’t?) and do my stuff late at night. Snuggling my pillow under my warm covers is the perfect morning for me, until my alarm clock goes on signaling that time’s up and I have to be ready for my work at 8:00AM. That’s my routine every Monday to Saturday. Rising early is very hard for me–a torture–but I have to because I have to make a living. Adding to my torture is my boyfriend (whenever he’s there) pestering me to wake up even if my alarm clock hasn’t alarmed yet. He is a morning person, and in contrast to me, he feels at best in the morning. And that’s what I hate about him… sometimes.

Here are my reasons why having a morning person boyfriend is dreadful:

1.   Waking up before your alarm clock goes on and tells me to wake up
This is the major reason why I’m grumpy in the morning at times. I mean, doesn’t he get it why I set up my alarm clock before I go to bed at night? Geez. He would pester me saying “Wake up or you’ll be late again today!” (in most cases this is true, I am a chronic latecomer) and wouldn’t stop annoying me (includes shaking my body, pulling the blanket and let the cold air cloak me, tickling) until I get up. At least my alarm clock gives me 5 minutes snooze time.

2.       He expects me to be in a good mood for jokes in the morning
Sometimes even eating breakfast is a torture. When I feel like I lacked 5 minutes of sleep, I will be not in the mood to eat… or talk. And then this boyfriend would be eating happily beside me, discussing those funny events he had seen on TV, or at work, or everywhere. When I’m in a bad mood, I am in a bad mood. He knows this yet he still would keep on talking and when he sees me spacing out, he would elbow me and then I have to change my grumpy look and force a smile just so he would stop.

3.       Night activities makes him sleepy
Because he wakes up early, he feels sleepy even at 6:00PM. By this time, I am already pumped up. I don’t watch movies alone so he has to watch it with me. Most of the time when I look at him beside me, he’s already fast asleep (and I don’t get to finish the movie). If I wake him up (we brush our teeth together), it leads to reason #4.

4.       He forces me to sleep early
He nags and scolds me for not sleeping early. I already have my mother to do this for me, so really, it’s annoying.

However, sometimes having a morning-person beside you can be amazing. Here are my reasons why:

1. I am never late whenever he’s there to wake me up
Because I woke up earlier than my alarm clock. And as a person who is chronically late, not being late for work (our company isn’t that strict regarding tardiness—until lately) can sometimes make my day.

2.       Breakfast is already served
I hate cooking as much as I hate mornings, and having a boyfriend who enjoys cooking for you especially in a hectic morning is… heaven.

3.       Nighttime is me-time
Because he is already asleep usually as early as 8:00PM, I get to do some me-time girl stuffs like writing my diary, updating my blog, doing my nails, plucking my armpits, etc. without having to worry about irking him at the grossest girl stuffs we girls do.

4.       Sometimes I get a full 8-10 hours of sleep
Because I want him to shut up every time he starts scolding me for still up at ten fucking o’clock, I obey him and sleep. But even getting a whole night’s sleep can’t energize me in the morning of next day, but at least it doesn’t make me sleepy and tired the whole day.

5.       Mornings—when he’s there—aren’t that horrible anymore
He makes mornings easier for me. And the best part? When I’m still in bed and he snuggles behind me and whispers ‘I love you” in my ear. I don’t know if he knows that I’m half awake when he does that though, but it makes my morning wonderful.

But whatever he may be, I love him just the way he is.

How about you? Do you have a morning-person lover?

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Top Ten Reasons Why Men Cheat

by Edj - Friday, June 03, 2011

Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships’ Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp’ Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions’ Apparently not always.

1. Men never turn down options. Men usually don’t get offers soon, so if they get an option, they will find it difficult to turn it down.

2. At times, men feel that they are not very attractive to women. So, if a woman shows little interest in them, they would grab the opportunity immediately. This helps in boosting their ego.

3. If your relationship is not working well and distance has cropped up between the two of you, then it is likely a reason for a man to cheat. Your man can find another woman who seems to be more interesting and shares common interests.

4. If you are argumentative or a big criticizer and criticize on your man every moment, then there are chances that your man would look out for a better option and cheat on you.

5. At times, the reason can be falling out of love. If your relationship has lost the spark, then there are chances that your man can look out for greener pastures to seek love. Men can easily fall out of love if the spark in a relationship is lost.

6. If you are not sharing a healthy sex life, then wandering for your man from the relationship is not a big deal. This is one big factor that keeps a man interested in the relationship. If your sex life is not all that great and you turn down your partners’ moves often, then there is a possibility that the man might cheat.

7. At times, men cheat to take revenge on their partners. If they find out that their partner had been cheating on him, then they might also walk on the same path and cheat on you.

8. Men keep looking for changes. They always want to try something that is new and would give them a thrill. If they find an attractive woman, they might give a try and cheat on you.

9. There are many men who would try to cheat to see if they will get caught by their partner. They would want to check if they are smart enough to get away with the cheating.

10. If you have forgiven your man in the past for cheating on you, then he might develop the tendency of cheating again because they would know if they plead, you are likely to forgive him.

Source: http://www.yourmodernliving.com/top-ten-reasons-why-men-cheat/

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Tips On Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship

by Edj - Friday, June 03, 2011

How to deal with jealousy is a method that may be sought after by both the jealous person and the person who is the subject of the jealousy. There are many types of jealousy, so it helps to try to work out the kind that is affecting your relationship so that you can make the situation better.

Some people are just jealous, and will admit it freely. This may be a part of their personality, and it can be hard to break if that is the case. Others are jealous by nature, but don’t actually come out and tell you. Instead, they seem to get angry, sad, or depressed about seemingly unimportant matters, when, in reality, they are stewing with jealousy and refuse to admit it. And perhaps the most common form of jealousy is that which is not part of the person’s personality, but arises instead from a set of circumstances.

Jealousy is often the result of distrust and/or paranoia. The distrust may come from a past relationship, that had nothing to do with your current one, or it might be heightened because someone was cheated on, or lied to in the current relationship. Or, it might just be because the jealous person is, possibly for the first time, very in love and very afraid of losing his or her partner. In any case of how to deal with jealousy, it’s important to understand where the feelings are originating so that someone doesn’t get blamed unjustly, or become burdened with all sorts of demands, and so that lies don’t become what are believed to be truths.

What usually happens when a person gives into jealousy, is that he or she either begins to put more and more limitations upon what his or her partner can do, or demand an absurd amount of information about what he/she is doing, which is both offensive and abusive in a way. It is a means of controlling that person. If you are a jealous person, remember that if you love the person you are with, you cannot try to possess him or her. This type of controlling attitude will only make your partner want to push away from you.

Every person needs time with friends, time alone, and time with their partner, and each individual differs with respect to the quantity of each. If you are a person who wants to spend 100% of your time with your partner, do not be offended, or read something into the fact if your partner needs some time alone or with friends. What you can do is also start to spend time on your own or with friends. It may be forced at first, but it is healthy for a person to have some time out of a relationship, and you will soon feel the benefits of this healthy distance.

If you have been wondering yourself how to deal with jealousy, or are wondering about how to help your partner overcome this relationship threatening feeling, you can also consider counseling or some type of therapy.

Source: http://www.yourmodernliving.com/tips-on-dealing-with-jealousy-in-a-relationship/

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A letter to the mistress from a pissed off wife.

by Edj - Friday, June 03, 2011

THANKS Jennifer....

......For leaving bite marks all over my husbands chest last night.

No, really, Thank You! You have no idea what a nightmare you have just saved me and my kids from.

To reward you for your services I am offering you my husband for keeps. Should you accept your prize please note the following rules.

1. You are going to have to financially support him. I say this because we have 2 children together (but you knew that) which means that he will have to give up a sizeable chunk of his pay to support them in the manner they deserve. Please keep in mind that since he has kept me a stay at home Mom for the better part of the last 11 years he will also be paying me alimony. So forget about his money honey.....cause it's mine!

2. You will have to provide him with new attire. You see after he stepped from our (now mine) shower this morning dripping wet and naked is when I discovered your little "love bites". It just so happened that at that EXACT moment a giant black hole appeared in my home and devoured almost all of his clothing. Therefore he will come to you almost naked (lucky you). The bright side is that you can dress him any way you want. Go nuts and buy him a leash and some vinyl attire or a cute little dress while your at it.

3. You will have to give him up every other weekend. This time will be set aside for his visits with his children. Since he openly admitted (in front of several people) that you are just "some dumb drunk bitch" that he met at a "tweakers" house you will be banned from these visits for fear of my children's safety. Just so you know, that is also going to be the reason to have his visits limited (if not supervised). After all WTF was HE doing at a "tweakers" house in the first place?

4. You will not be having a proper sex life. Yes, I know that you didn't fuck him last night. Since his back injury 4 years ago his penis hasn't worked right. Too bad for you because before that it was THE BEST SEX EVER and we fucked all the time! however, now he'll most likely disappoint you with his half hard member that only works with a little blue pill. Please don't let that fool you. The little blue pill means that he comes within 2 minutes....hardly enough time for you and 98% of the time he will just be too embarrassed to even try. Stock up on your batteries and/or multiple sex partners! By the way, No it CANNOT be fixed. It's nerve damage sweetie, deal with it!

5. You will NOT return him to me. I will NOT have him. He fucked up when he touched you! I was a good wife to him and he had a good thing going on here. Don't be surprised if you don't live up to me because you wont and he will make you miserable for it!

6. He will blame you for ALL of this. He told me, with tears in his eyes, that you giggled to him "I hope your wife sees that". I don't know if you said it or not. I don't really care. However, just in case you did, your wish came true. I did see it, and he's pissed. He's so mad that you made that comment that when I punched him in the eye he apologized to me! Yes, I know violence is wrong and to be honest I've never hit anyone before. However, I am not sorry that I did and if I could have that moment back I would have simply aimed lower!

7. This one isn't really a rule, more like a friendly warning. I will make sure to take up as much of his time with the most petty shit I can find to spite you. I will make it my hobby to hurt him and you the same amount my kids are hurting right now. Please be aware that he will take it, he will eat my shit for years with a smile. I was with him for 12 years, I know him better. Yes, I do feel completely justified in my actions. Just in case you were wondering.

So Thank you, Jennifer the dumb drunk bitch from the tweakers house who left bite marks on my husband chest last night, for showing me that 11 years and 2 children were no match for you! I applaud you on a man well won. HE'S ALL YOURS YOU FUCKING WHORE!

Source: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sea/230341349.html

"WOW!" is all I could say. After reading this, I feel sorry for the mistress but still she deserves it. Well, as for the cheating husband, I wanna ask you this question.. Can you say to yourself that that Jennifer is worth the 12 years with your wife and 2 children? If you can say Yes, then good for you.

I really don't know why other women will still go for a man who is already committed. Why can't they settle for those who are single?

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How Girls Flirt

by Edj - Saturday, March 15, 2008

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Post-processing for the In-love

Reasons why having a morning person boyfriend is dreadful but at the same time amazing

Top Ten Reasons Why Men Cheat

Tips On Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship

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